Happy Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day to my followers 🙂  Today is the traditional day for celebrating love, but I believe love is something that should be celebrated all year around, with everyone in our lives.  Even if you’re single today, take time to appreciate how much love is in your life right now.  Look for all the ways the people in your life show you they love you, from the friend who has always supported and believed in you no matter what, to the cup of coffee your sister brought you as a peace-offering that time you had a spat.  

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The reality is that even if we’re not in the right relationship yet, our lives are filled with love.  All of us have people in our lives who would do anything for us, but we’re so focused on the form it should take, that it only counts if it comes from a romantic partner, that we miss the love that’s right in front of us and all around us.

How can you show more love and appreciation to your loved ones today?  Call up an old friend and tell them you’ve been thinking of them.  Invite some of your single friends around for a home cooked dinner.  Tell someone how much they mean to you, and how lucky you are to have them in your life.  Do all this with the pure intention of giving love, without expecting anything in return.  

And of course, also spend today giving love to yourself.  Fill yourself up with love, do something you’ve been wanting to do for ages.  Take the afternoon off and indulge in a favourite book.  Think of ways you can commit even more deeply to yourself by visioning the big dream you have for your life and the great purpose you were born to share with the world, and take the first steps today to make that a reality.

Happy Valentine’s Day again, and no matter what your relationship status, allow today to be as love filled as you can make it.  You are pure love at your core, so share the gift of your authentic self, everywhere you go. xoxoxo

Be Totally Unrealistic

If there’s one word that holds women back from the life of their dreams, it’s the word ‘realistic’.  I cringe when I hear it because I know the person saying it has almost certainly bought into limitations, without ever really examining if they’re true.  Limitations usually placed on them by other people who also have never really examined if they’re true.

When I work with a client, one of the first things we do is to get all her deepest dreams out on the table.  Her absolute dream life.  Being ‘realistic’ is banned from the session, we want everything out in the open.  Coaching is a place for miracles to occur, not for creating a half-life, inside the boundaries of falsely imposed limitations.

Some things are unrealistic, yes.  However much I want to, I’m never going to meet Henry VIII(my only Bad Boy crush) in this life time. But most of our desires aren’t unrealistic, they’re just unexamined.  For almost everything you want to do, there is someone in the world doing it right now.  Want to find your soul mate at 80 years of age?  There are women older than that falling in love and getting married every day.  Want to have a career where you love what you do, make plenty of money and have lots of free time?  There are people all over the world (and the number is growing) who are doing this as you read. Want to travel the world with your spouse and children, without disrupting your kids education?  There are families everywhere, doing this right at this very moment.

You can worry about being ‘realistic’ later on.  For now, dream bigger than you’ve ever dreamed before.  The moment you catch yourself uttering the ‘R’ word, stop and examine if it’s even true.  A quick Google search will usually throw that notion out the window.

If someone is out in the world, doing something you want, then that means it’s possible for you too.  Yes, your situation might be different to theirs.  You might have obstacles that they don’t have.  But guess what?  They have obstacles too.  Ones that you don’t have.  But the difference is, they still made it work.

photo credit: Stuck in Customs via photopin <a  One of my 'unrealistic' travel destinations.

photo credit: Stuck in Customs via photopin

I remember when I first came back from traveling alone (apparently, it’s completely unrealistic for a girl to want to travel alone).  Most of the people who had told me before I left that it was unrealistic for me, now told me how ‘lucky’ I was, and how they wished they could do it too.  When I told them if I could do it, then there was no reason they couldn’t either, they told me all these reasons why it was possible for me to do it, and unrealistic for them.  One co-worker told me that I was a lot braver than she was.  Well that had nothing to do with it.  All the things she feared could happen to her, could have happened to me too.  I was just as fragile and breakable as she was.  I had all the same fears.  There were times on my adventures when I was absolutely, hands-hidden-inside-my-shirt-sleeves-so-no-one-can-see-how-much-they’re-shaking, terrified.  The difference is, I did it anyway.

Being unrealistic is where the magic happens.  Challenge any automatic assumptions you might have about what’s realistic, or why something is possible for other people, but not for you.  When you feel afraid of challenging the assumption, that’s a sign that you’re on the right track.  Challenge it, move past it and you’ll look back and wonder why you ever thought that way.

Why Are You Apologizing For Your Desires?

We’ve been raised to believe that it’s wrong to have big dreams.  We balk at the idea of being upfront about our desires and judge ourselves as greedy for wanting abundance.  As women, we’re often trained to meet other people’s needs, while ignoring our own.  And we do it, without ever questioning why it has to be this way.

One of my clients is a top executive at one of the largest humanitarian organizations in the world.  During our first coaching call, she told me that she has a big dream of having all the money she’ll ever need, while having plenty of free time to spend with the child she’s planning to adopt.  We explored her dream behind her dream, to discover why she wanted this wealth.  What would it enable her to do, that she can’t do now?  Who’s life would change, as a result of her producing this income?

photo credit: eir@si via photopin cc

photo credit: eir@si via photopin cc

After several minutes, we found out that her dream is to use the money to build schools for the education of girls in Kenya and Ethiopia, places she’s been to several times, and adores.  She wants to see women and girls be empowered in ways that benefit them and their whole communities. This is the legacy she wants to leave behind in the world, after she’s gone.

While talking about this incredible goal, her whole tone lit up.  Her voice was vibrant and excited and I could feel her passion and authenticity in my own body while listening to her.  However, when she returned to the subject of having the wealth and time to achieve this, her whole tone became apologetic.  She had the very common belief that it’s somehow selfish and unrealistic to want to have great wealth and free time, despite it’s purpose.  We quickly turned that belief on it’s head when she opened up to the possibility that it was more than fine for her to want this. Why wouldn’t she?  It makes perfect sense to want to have financial freedom and plenty of time to spend with the people and projects you love.  It’s the other way around – working endless hours for little pay that makes no sense.

Be bold about your desires.  Stop judging yourself for wanting what you want.  It’s perfectly ok.  You can do far more good in the world with wealth, than you can when you’re struggling to pay the bills.  You find it easier to be more open-hearted and generous when you’re not stressing about how to feed your children.  Wealth for wealth’s sake is not in itself a worthy goal, but that’s why people very rarely want this.  What we want is the life and goals that having wealth will enable us to achieve.  It’s like wanting to get from Edinburgh to London, and apologizing for wanting a car to make the journey easier, when you’ve been brought up to believe you should walk.

Start paying attention to the times you judge yourself and catch it as quickly as you can.  Then turn it around.  Remember the goal behind the goal, and remind yourself how worthy and noble your desires are.  You would not be reading this website, if you were not a conscious woman who wants to live out her life’s purpose and make a difference in the world. So stop treating yourself like you’re someone you’re not!

Are you hiding your true self?

We are all meant to be empowered, feminine, women and fulfill our callings in life.Yet it’s so easy to get confused, feel insecure and even lose hope in your path or purpose.And it’s also so easy to leave parts of ourselves on the backburner or secretly hiding…

That is why I’m so excited about what Gina Devee’s is up to…

She is releasing 7 videos she filmed in Paris that will inspire you to completely develop yourself in a way that brings everything about who YOU are front and center.

Gina’s message is all about YOU becoming your best self and expressing at your highest levels and fullest capacity.If you know, deep down that it’s time to stop hiding parts of yourself and let your light shine so brightly that you won’t be mistaken for anyone else – then I strongly encourage you to watch Gina’s first video now.Gina went from being a struggling psychotherapist making $24K a year, to a coach living in her feminine power… working from Italy, Paris, Greece, England & Australia… inspiring women globally to step out from hiding and live their dream now.

Many of her clients are doing the same.

Only you know why you are here.

And Gina DeVee knows how to bring that gift out of you in such a powerfully feminine way, that you can’t help but attract the right clients for you, at the price you deserve.

It’s time to let everyone know who you came here to be.

P.S. If you are absolutely ready to step into your own power and transform your money story…. And do it in a way where you can create a business that you love in the process.

Deep Coaching

You are a woman who is successful, adventurous and intuitive and right now, you feel like you’re in a period of transition.  You’ve been following the life path you were told is the correct one.  But you know it doesn’t feel right.  It sometimes feels like you’re sleep-walking through your days, still waiting for your real life to start. You have big dreams.  You want an extraordinary life.  You want to be able to look back on your life and cherish the amazing memories you created, with the satisfaction of knowing you played full out, and that the world is now a far better place, because you were here.  You want to share yourself and your gifts fully with the world. You’ve started to move away from where you were. But you’re feeling stuck because you’re still not clear on where you want to go, or how to get there.  You want to get out of that ‘in between’ phase, and start living the life you want to live.

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Yet, when you consider going for your dreams, something holds you back.  You doubt yourself.  Your family and friends criticize you and try to pull you back into the fold, and you can’t remember how to claim confidence in your own voice.  Every time you try to open up about your dreams, you get shut down and you start to wonder if maybe they’re right…

Coaching is one of the best ways to overcome fears and blocks you have around living your dreams.  It helps you gain clarity and reconnect with your true self, so you can live fully from your soul, knowing exactly what you want.  And you have someone who is 100% on your side, who believes in you, and encourages you to dream bigger than you’ve ever dreamed before.

I only work with a few coaching clients a year.  I help women who have forgotten how powerful they are, to reconnect with their true power and reclaim their voice.  I work with women who want to stop apologizing and seeking permission to be who they really are, so they can unapologetically be their authentic, warm, loving and open-hearted selves.  You’ll learn how to listen to your intuition, and take back your power.  The coaching we do is deep, and is unique to each person I work with.

Because I spent so many years feeling powerless myself, I can easily see where people are giving their power away to others and how they can begin to reclaim it.  I can see the destructive thoughts, actions, behaviors, blind spots and patterns that hold them back.  And I can also see the genius in the people I work with, even when they can’t see it themselves.  My clients say they love that they can tell me anything, no matter how big or fearful.  They love that I believe in them and can see their brilliance, even when they can’t see it themselves.  Many of them have told me it’s the first time they’ve ever felt safe enough to fully share their dreams with another person.

Life On Own Terms

You don’t need a coach. No-one needs a coach.  Coaching is something you want, when you’re ready to play full out, and take your life to the next level. Coaching isn’t for the faint-hearted. It’s an investment, not just of money, but of time, commitment and courage.

For the first time,probably in years, you will reclaim your own voice and see the world differently, opening up to new possibilities. Listening to your own voice and not the voice of your conditioning literally changes your life.

I work by invitation and referral only.  I spend a minimum of two hours with each prospective client, learning about who you are and exploring what you really want.  If after two hours, we decide we’ve solved your problem, we can leave it there (although I like to keep in touch from time to time, to know how you’re doing).  If you decide you’d like to continue coaching, and if it’s a fit for both of us, then we can explore how we can work together.

Because I only work with a few people, I have a very high filter for the types of clients I work with:

1: You must be coachable.  If you’re just looking for new information, then coaching isn’t for you.  The work we do together needs to be applied for you to experience transformation.

2: You must be fun and interesting. We’ll be working closely together, so it’s important that we enjoy each other’s company.

3: You must be committed and courageous.  You must really want your big dreams, and be willing to stretch outside of your comfort zone.

4: You must be inspiring.  You must be lit up by what you want, and you must want something that will really make a difference in your life and in the world.

If you meet those 4 criteria, then we should have a great time working together.

Contact me at borntobeaheroine@gmail.com, for a powerful coaching conversation. We’ll block out 2 full hours, and I will give you the most powerful coaching experience I can give.  At the end of that time, you’ll know.  Either you’ll want more of that.  Or we’ll be complete, because you’ll have had everything that you need from our conversation. Either way is a success.

When you’re ready to change your life, contact me and we’ll talk.

Give yourself permission to create a glorious lifestyle

What does it take to become a feminine and empowered coach who stands unapologetically for financial abundance and amazing lifestyle? 

My mentor Gina DeVee is answering this question with her new and inspiring 7-part video series she created in France!

Gina is sharing her own journey from being a struggling psychotherapist to now having wealth consciousness and coaching mastery–she explains from her apartment in Paris. 

And she is revealing the steps she took to move her business forward (the same steps that can work for you), thrusting you into the lifestyle and freedom you truly desire. 

With her 7 Paris-based videos, she shares:

  • How she transformed her money story from the “underearner” and “just-enougher” to a 7-figure earner in a few short years (and how any service based professional can as well) 

  • Exactly why most women are afraid to be visible… and how you can overcome this insecurity to have confidence in your business and offerings. 
  • What “The suppressed secret of millions of women” is and how you can take a stand to not be one of them. 
  • How to give yourself permission to create a glorious lifestyle.
You’ll also see other women’s stories… just like yours… who have transformed their own lives through personal development and coaching mastery. 

If you’re ready to unlock your path to experiencing incredible wealth of spirit, potential, and money, click here to watch her first video now >> 

I know you will love these videos from Paris and be inspired by them! 

PS:  If you are ready to allow yourself to be your best self and begin expressing at your highest level and your fullest capacity. Click here for immediate access to Gina’s videos from France and start living your life on purpose.

(VIDEO) Women going global…

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So many mentors talk about “going global” with your message.

But what they don’t tell you is… they are spending 40 hours a week plus behind their computer…

Creating programs…

Writing emails and sales copy.

Doesn’t that just sound like a job?

So what if you can work from anywhere in the world if you have no time to enjoy your life?

I want to introduce you to my friend Gina DeVee, creator of Divine Living, who has truly “gone global” in her business, and in a very chic way.

<<< You can meet her here >>>

In fact, in the last few months alone, she has run her business from the Italian islands, Greek islands AND Paris.

And one thing I know about Gina DeVee is that she does not slave away behind a computer.

She has learned to create a 7-figure international coaching business AND a luxurious life style filled with pleasure.

She is living the empowered feminine, a.k.a. Queen life to the fullest…

Her life as a struggling psychotherapist was not always filled with abundance, grace and ease…and now she’s available to share her journey of transformation with you… 

She’s revealing how she did it – and how you can too.

She’s also inviting you to be one of the first to know about her long waited for International Coaching Certification Program for Women, a program where she has combined THE BEST of coaching mastery, and business excellence… so you can create the lifestyle of your dreams in a feminine way.

<<< You can do that here >>>

According to Gina DeVee, getting from lack, limitation, and frustration to living it up in the world’s exotic destinations wasn’t that hard.

What was hard, was the struggle.

What was hard, was not living her divine purpose daily.

Are you ready for this kind of transformation in your own life?

Embrace being wealthy and feminine? And funnel the power into your dreams, instead of your to do list?

<<< Watch this video now >>>

Run your business and your life in an empowered, feminine way. Don’t let it run you.

 

P.S. If you’re craving to develop business success and lifestyle grandeur, I know no one better to recommend on this subject  than Gina DeVee.

(Video) This Could Be Your Life

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If 5 minutes could completely transform your life (and I believe it can), then this is the five minutes you’ve been waiting for…

 My close friend Gina DeVee has a special message for you.

<<< You can watch it here >>>

She is going to reveal how she went from totally struggling as a psychotherapist, being in financial lack and emotional depression (even though her list of credentials included a Master’s Degree and working at the The White House)…

To working with clients internationally, traveling around the world, living a chic life style in Paris, and having enough money to do what she wants, when she wants… Through growing a 7-figure coaching business aligned with her purpose and passion.

And finally, creating and launching The Academy: International Women’s Coaching Certification Program that will transform hundreds of lives.

Gina knew she had it in her. Talent. Expertise. A gift to share.

And then it happened. A life and business beyond her wildest dreams. A life and career path she’s available to share with you now.

Do you desire having time and money freedom to work from anywhere in the world?

If so, take five minutes and watch this video…

<<<  Make your dream a reality now >>>

And enjoy some personal time with Gina in Paris.

There’s no one I know of who integrates business success and lifestyle grandeur more than Gina DeVee.

Release the Shame Of Not Having Found Your Calling Yet

From the earliest age I can remember, I’ve had endless interests.  I discover something new, become completely captivated by it and devour everything I could get my hands on.  I live and breath the subject for weeks or even months.  Then, something new attracts me.  Instantly in love with my new topic, I blissfully immerse myself in it.  Usually, I juggle several fascinating topics at once and can happily talk the ear off anyone for hours about my newest loves.  I remember once walking into a book store and gazing around at the wide range of topics, and I suddenly felt a pang of frustration  that I was never going to live long enough to learn and explore all that the world had to offer.

photo credit: Viewminder via photopin cc  Possibly what your living room looks like!

photo credit: Viewminder via photopin cc                Possibly what your living room looks like!

So it should have been easy for me to choose a career, right?  With so many passions, all I had to do was choose one.  Aye, there’s the rub! The idea of choosing just one subject to devote my life to, while ignoring all my other interests, left me cold inside.  I love history and yet I dropped out of an archaeology degree.  When I explained it to my friend, the only way I could describe it was this:  ‘If I study archaeology, then at the end of it I’ll be an archaeologist. It’s like being in a sheep pen, being herded in one direction to go into a tiny field where I’ll spend my life. I can’t stand the idea of that. I want a wide open plain.  My friend responded that the plain sounded scary. ‘Yes, but I need the plain’ I answered.

I tried different things and always, after an initial burst of enthusiasm, would move on to something else.  I knew if I chose one thing, I end up resenting it.  So instead, I studied a degree I had no interest in, and took a job in an industry that bored me, reasoning that it’s better to resent something I don’t like anyway, than grow to resent something I love.  Meanwhile, surely someday, inspiration would strike and I’d find that ‘One True Calling’ I’m supposed to spend my life at.

However, I felt guilty and ashamed. I was an adult. Why couldn’t I just grow up and pick something?  Was I doomed to roam through life, an aimless drifter who’d never contribute anything of meaning to the world? Was I just a waste of space?  I was so envious of people who had one thing they loved, and could happily stick to that.

One evening, while browsing around on the internet, 14 tabs open as usual, I came across a strange expression.  A woman called Barbara Sher was talking about something called a Scanner Personality.  People who are intensely curious about many different topics, who have multiple passions, and find it hard to choose one, at the expense of the rest.  When I read it, I almost squealed in excitement.  That’s me!!  This describes me to a T!!  I will never be happy to stick with one subject because I’m not wired that way.  I was a square peg, trying to force myself into a round hole.

Instantly, the shame and guilt fell away.  There was nothing wrong with me.  I was trying to force myself into a way of life that would never work for me.  The moment I gave myself permission to be the Renaissance Woman (I prefer that term to ‘Scanner’) I was born to be, ideas flooded to me instantly.  Suddenly, the idea of choosing something no longer threatened me because I could choose lots of things, and integrate them, creating my own unique career.  I could give myself permission to pursue my many interests.  For the first time in years, I could breath more easily.

You might feel the same way.  Spending hours researching your newest passion, while feeling guilty and ashamed that you can’t seem to find your ‘One True Calling’ to stick with.  One moment, feeling like a kid in a candy store as you happily immerse yourself in the latest topic that captivates you.  The next, feeling ashamed of yourself for not having committed to something by now. If this is the case, then you have nothing to be ashamed of.   You’ve been trying to force yourself to work in a way that you are not designed to, in a world where people are constantly told to specialize.

Here are some of the traits of a Renaissance Woman:

  • You have multiple passions
  • You become intensely curious about a new subject, devouring information on it to learn more.
  • You rarely have a desire to master any one topic.  Once you’ve learned all you want to know, you’re happy to move on to the next adventure.
  • You feel frustrated, ashamed and guilty because you still haven’t found that ‘One Thing’ to pursue.
  • You feel guilty and ashamed of having so many interests.
  • You often feel embarrassed at having to explain to people that the last project you were so enthusiastic about before, is something you are no longer working on.  You can almost see them exchange weary glances.
  • You start multiple projects, but rarely finish them.
  • The idea of sticking to one field and devoting your life to it, leaves you feeling trapped.
  • You’re afraid that if you choose one passion, you’ll end up resenting it, no matter how much you love it now.
  • You work at a low paying job, or do work you have no interest in, as a way to avoid choosing one career path.
  • You’re afraid that if you choose one thing, you’ll end up quickly becoming bored with it, as you’ve always done in the past.
  • If you didn’t feel pressured to choose, you could very happily spend your life exploring and learning as much as the world has to offer.
photo credit: uppityrib via photopin cc  Veronica Franco, a fascinating heroine and Renaissance Woman.

photo credit: uppityrib via photopin cc Veronica Franco, a fascinating heroine and fellow Renaissance Woman.

The moment you give yourself permission to be the Renaissance Woman you are, you’ll feel immense relief.  You’ll find it much easier to try out a new project, knowing you are under no obligation to spend the rest of your life at it.  Once you make it ok for you to be a Renaissance Woman, you’ll become much more productive, because you can include enough of your passions into what you do, in a way that guarantees you’ll never miss out or become bored.  This is who you are, and it’s perfect!  The world needs Renaissance Women, otherwise you would not have been created the way you are.  The world would be a far less richer place if Leonardo da Vinci (who also suffered from guilt for having such a wide range of passions), Benjamin Franklin or Oprah Winfrey had ‘grown up’ and chosen one path to stick with.

Stop listening to other people, who pressure you to specialize.  You are not meant to work this way.  Remind yourself that only your permission is required when deciding what you want to do.  No-one else has the authority to make that decision for you, or tell you that you need to force yourself into the ‘one size fits all’ model that they’ve decided is right for everyone.  The more you listen to yourself, and embrace who you truly are, the easier it will become, and the richer and more abundant your life will be.  You’ll be free to create your own unique career, including many of your passions.

 

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