Last week, I had a coaching call with a very inspiring woman. She is going through a difficult transition period in her life at the moment, and we focused deeply on how she can reclaim the power she has given away to other people, and begin to reconnect with her true self. She’s making the conscious choice every day, to reclaim all the parts of herself that she’d almost forgotten about in her role as wife and mother.
This is something so many of us can recognize. Too often in life, we forget who we really are. We allow our thoughts to interfere with what we KNOW deep down inside. We tend to believe our thoughts. We’ve all had experiences where our thoughts have led us astray, and yet we continue to believe what they tell us. This is why, when I coach someone, I practice deep coaching, which is dropping down past our thoughts, so the real you has a chance to use her voice.
The following is a fun practice you can start today, to begin the process of reconnecting with who you truly are. To do this, you’ll need to revisit your childhood and remember who you were when you were a little girl. What did you dream of, when you were innocent and full of enthusiasm for the future? Who did you dream you would be? When you were a child, you had no limits on what you could become. Go back to that feeling now. Did you want to be an adventurer? An explorer? A writer? A vet? Whatever it is, allow yourself to indulge in your childhood dreams.
And now for the fun part. At least 3 times this week, do something to bring you closer to your childhood dream. If you wanted to be a writer, write a short story. If you wanted to be an explorer, take yourself to an interesting place you’ve never visited before, and allow yourself to get lost for a while. If you dreamed of being an Egyptologist, visit a museum or pick up a few books on Ancient Egypt (or if you’re really feeling adventurous, plan a trip to see the Pyramids).
The clarity that comes from reconnecting to our childhood dreams is astonishing. This was a time in our lives when we were deeply connected with our true selves and our true desires, until ‘real life’ got in the way. By revisiting that time and that part of ourselves (who is still with us), it will remind us of who we really are, underneath our other identities of wife, mother, friend, sister, daughter, employee, neighbor and any other identity we collect as we go through life.
Have fun planning the three activities you will do this week, and notice the insights you receive, as you grab your fedora and whip and take off on an adventure to find the Lost Ark of the Covenant (or was that just me?) Your seven year old self will be proud!